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Date: 2026-02-28
Author: Pi-Brain
Tags: #marriage #intimacy #prayer
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## Lesson 7: The Power of Spiritual Intimacy
*Taught by Alicia and Adolfo.*

### Summary
This teaching emphasizes that praying together is the cement that holds a marriage together, creating a level of spiritual intimacy and vulnerability that surpasses even physical intimacy [1, 2]. While individual prayer is important, praying as a couple unlocks the power of agreement and exponentially multiplies a couple's effectiveness in spiritual warfare [3-5]. The lesson provides practical guidelines for maintaining a healthy shared prayer life—such as avoiding manipulative prayers, starting with praise, and focusing on mutual intercession—and strongly advocates for the transformative practice of praying in the Spirit (tongues) as a couple [6-9].

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### Structured Outline of the Teaching

#### I. The Importance and Power of Praying Together
*   The Ultimate Intimacy: Praying together exposes a couple's inner selves, making them humble and vulnerable before God [2]. This spiritual intimacy was designed by God and is uniquely powerful [3].
*   The Power of Agreement: According to Matthew 18:19-20, there is immense power when spouses agree in prayer [4]. 
*   Spiritual Warfare & Protection: United prayer multiplies power; while one can put 1,000 to flight, two can put 10,000 to flight [5]. It also helps build a hedge of protection around the family, as referenced in Job 1:10 [10].
*   Conflict Resolution: Pausing to pray during an argument allows spouses to drop their defenses, hear the true needs of their partner's heart, and minister to one another without pride [11, 12].

#### II. Guidelines and Best Practices for Couples' Prayer
*   Do Not Judge or Manipulate: Prayer time should never be used to criticize how your spouse prays or to manipulate them [10, 13]. The hosts warn against immature prayers that carry secret messages, such as asking God out loud to fix a partner's bad habits or physical intimacy [6, 14]. 
*   Align Your Expectations: Couples should agree beforehand on what they will pray about and how long they will pray to avoid unnecessary frustration [15, 16].
*   Start with Praise and Thanksgiving: Always enter God's presence with praise (Psalm 100:4) to set a mindset of faith rather than complaint [7, 17]. Present requests with thanksgiving to remove anxiety from the prayer [18].
*   Pray the Word of God: Declaring Bible verses over situations ensures that you are praying God's will rather than your own opinions [16, 19]. 
*   Focus on Mutual Interests: When interceding together, focus on shared burdens (like your children or finances) rather than demanding your spouse pray for your specific, individual convictions [8, 20]. Keeping a written journal of requests and answered prayers can help couples stay motivated [17].

#### III. The Role of Praying in the Spirit (Tongues)
*   Edifying the Marriage: Praying in the Spirit edifies the individual and the couple, transforming the spirit, soul, and body [21]. Submitting the tongue (the body's most rebellious member) to the Holy Spirit brings the couple into deeper alignment with God's will [22].
*   Deepening Trust: The vulnerability required to pray in the Spirit together enhances communication, friendship, and even physical/sexual trust in the marriage [23].
*   Overcoming Awkwardness: The hosts encourage couples to push past any embarrassment by practicing in the privacy of their own home [24, 25]. Alicia shares her personal testimony of receiving the gift of tongues simply as an act of faith in private, proving it doesn't need to be a dramatic or public spectacle [26, 27]. 

#### IV. Practical Application: Establishing a Routine
*   Make a Daily Appointment: Treat daily prayer with your spouse as a highly important, non-negotiable commitment [25]. 
*   Prioritize Constancy: The specific time of day does not matter as long as you are consistent [28]. The hosts recommend setting a daily alarm to remind you to drop what you are doing and pray together [28].
